Let’s Talk About Something Other Than Clothes

It’s blasphemy I know. You are saying to yourself,  How can a fashion blogger not want to talk about clothes?? Surely she wants to talk about shoes or purses or owl necklaces right?? Nope, none of those things either. Today we’re going to talk about a topic that fills me (and a lot of women) with dread; FOOD.

Food is not easy to talk about for me. I have a tricky relationship with it to say the least. Let’s be honest – I didn’t get plus sized because of illness or genetic predisposition. I’m a big girl because I refuse to compromise on eating what I love. Sure I exercise (sometimes) and yes, I try to eat salad or carrots with my pizza (occasionally) but for the most part, I eat and drink what I want. Why you ask? Simple; because it’s easier for me to ignore the facts and the damage I’m doing to my body by not thinking about it. Well my friends, the time has come for me to (wo)man up and make a change.

Last week, my boyfriend started doing this Gladiator Workout 3-4 times a week. After the initial soreness wore off, he got really excited about it. So excited that he’s decided to go Paleo. If you never heard of the Paleo plan, it’s about eating like the cavemen. Lots of meats and fruits and vegetables and nuts and fish and healthy fats (which apparently includes avocados) but no carbs or added sweetners or junk….. basically the majority of my quick and easy diet that I’ve come to accept and live with. Sounds torturous right?

The Paleo Solution is sort of the bible of Paleo plan people. Or so I’m told…..

Now, let me make one thing very clear. The boyfriend did NOT ask me to participate. I even asked point blank if he wanted me to do this so I’d lose weight and he said absolutely not. He loves me just the way I am and doesn’t want to change a thing about me. As much as I love the support and unconditional love (believe me, it’s quite the ego boost) it didn’t stop that little voice in the back of my head going Maybe you should give this a try. Would it kill you to take better care of yourself? You know you feel better when you work out and eat like a normal person that doesn’t subsist on sandwiches and eating out. 

I’ll be completely honest; the thought of doing this scares the pants off me. I have a million thoughts going through my head right now. What if I slip? What if I cheat? What if I do what I always do when on a diet – get obsessive and start starving myself. But you know what? It’s okay. Yes, I might mess up. Yes I will probably burn something I’m trying to cook. But you know what? I don’t have to be afraid. I have love and support from mi amor, and I know that we are doing this together. I talked to him a bit about my obsessive tendencies and the fact that I am scared. And I know that he has my back and will be watching out for me and helping me and encouraging me. NOT because he wants me to change but because he wants me to do what makes me happy. And he knows that challenging myself and doing something new will make me happy.

So starting now, we are embarking on our own 30 day Paleo challenge. He’ll continue his Gladiator workout, and I’ll do….. well….. something exercise-ish. To be honest, I have thought about it that much yet. I just flooded my Pinterest board with Paleo recipes and sites, and re-activated my Spark People account.I’m being realistic; I’m not going full on paleo – I’m still allowing myself yogurt and almond milk. I’m a little nervous and I’m hoping my cooking skills will be up to par. But mainly I’m excited to be embarking on a new challenge with someone who loves me no matter what.

Sorry for the long and extremely wordy post. Do you have any experience with Paleo or other life changing eating plans? I’d love to hear about them! Share in the comments below or on Facebook or Twitter. And be sure to check out my Pinterest page. It’s totally busting with Paleo recipes and shoes and funny Some eCards.

8 responses to “Let’s Talk About Something Other Than Clothes”

  1. Two comments.

    1. Please get a physical and talk to your doctor first. Especially if you haven’t done anything this drastic before.

    2. Look into the 17 Day Diet. I followed it strictly last spring and lost (coincidentally) 17 pounds. I need to get more serious about it again, but I’ve used it as my outline for eating ever since and it’s pretty great.

    Okay, three comments.

    3. xoxo

    • 1. That is a great idea! I will give her a call and run it by her.

      2. I am shying away from anything with the word diet. Diet to me implies counting, which causes me to be totally obsessive in a really awful way. I usually end up starving myself in a bid to never go over my calorie count. It’s hard being so crazy…..

      3. I <3 you so much 🙂

  2. Go you, Cathy!  When I was 17, I gave up soda, fast food, and paid more attention to my portions.  Two years ago, I gave up gluten and dairy.  Gluten apparently exacerbates my respiratory allergies, made my lips swell, and I finally gave in to the idea that I was lactose intolerant.  I have been on less medications for my asthma and allergies since then, and overall just feel better.  You said above that you are afraid of failing, cheating, etc.  Don’t worry about that.  Once you are down the healthy road, your body will love it, and when you do eat something that isn’t as good for you, your body will gently remind you why it’s not so good.  I love Homeslice, and on a rare occasion, I give in to some, but it doesn’t give me any satisfaction anymore.  Then there’s all the gas . . . .  .
    Chat me up if you need a “you are a badass” reminder.  I’m here to support and cheer you on!

    • Thank you my friend! It sounds like you made a ton of really positive changes that have definitely helped you for the better. I’ve been doing a ton of research and recipe hunting and I am feeling really good about all the foods that I will be getting to eat. And thanks for the offer – I will definitely be needing encouragement when I start to miss random things. You are the best!!

  3. Oh lady! I feel you on this.  The Beau and I have been making long, slow changes to our lifestyle, eating habits, and exercising. With my new job, I CAN make regular time to work out, and I will. We’re going to start adding juice to our meals (just bought a juicer) because we feel it’ll be an easier way to add more fruits and vegetables into our diet if we can just drink it.  We’ve also talked about doing a juicing fast to detox our systems and reboot it for a more veggie-focused diet. But it’s hard. We LOVE our sugars, carbs, and cheeses.

    At the same time… you kind of wake up one day and realize you can’t ignore the damage anymore, you know?

    Like Katrina said– don’t worry about failing. It took me 15 months to get 35 pounds off. But it’s staying off. Slower and steady, being kind and gentle to yourself… those are all going to make you more successful in the long run.  Remember that everything won’t work for everyone– so find out what WILL work for you, that makes you feel like you’re still able to live and enjoy food & life like you want, but makes you feel good about yourself. (Fact: I hate the elliptical. But if I go in feeling like a superhero, and each workout is a battle? It makes it easier. I also used to pretend that zombies were chasing me on the cardio bike.)

    • Thanks for the kind words of encouragement! I’m so impatient – I feel like if I do something for a week, I should see HUGE results and get frustrated when I don’t. But you are right; it’s all about the slow and steady and being kind to myself. And I love the zombie trick! I’ll remember that when I’m doing cardio 🙂

      •  Oh TRUST ME. I feel you on the impatience. After a year, I was like, “UM. Just 35 pounds? For real?” But then I realized that I wasn’t angry or resentful of what I had done over the last year…. I didn’t alter my diet in such a shocking way that made me angry or build up a horrible relationship with the gym. The small, slow modifications created slower results sure, but I was happier overall with the changes.

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